Tahnee Cole
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Black Women, Strong By Default
After having a screaming battle with someone I love and that I have a motherly instinct to protect; I took a sip of my Mimosa and said fuck it. It is normal for a black woman to protect. Smothering. Sometimes Imposing our care on those who don’t need or desire it. The fear that one’s…
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A Dose of Reality…
Life is moving fast. I look at my children and every six months they change. They are taller, stronger and more opinionated. Their interests change and their independence increases. Life is precious and time is more valuable than anything. I realized that I have been putting my energy into a lot of things that clearly…
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Career Moms Can Be Active in their kids Learning Development. 8 Tips how…
I am an active career mom and it is not easy. Many days I face challenges and chaos, but with great time management and strategy I am able to conquer my days successfully. There have been many misconceptions about career moms only being concerned about their career and salary. However, many career moms spend a…
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20 Fall Activities For The Family
I love the Fall. There are certain things that you only desire to do during the Fall Season. Toasty, cozy weather, fuzzy sweaters, booties, hoodies and hot coffee really get me going. My children love the Fall season because there is so much to do. The beautiful colors put you in a peaceful mood. The…
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Stop Stereotyping Career Moms… (Don’t play with us)!
I recently seen a post about career moms not making good homemakers. This led me to create this post. It is assumed that if you have a career and you are a mother, you are more prone to neglect every other aspect of your life, bullshit. I even loss interest in this creators content after…
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Uncomfortable Conversations
My daughter was amazed that even at 13 she could possibly be approached with offers of sex, drugs and liquor. One day you are playing with Barbie, the next you are built better than Barbie and getting attention from the opposite sex. Growing up can bring on a mix of emotions for parents and children.…
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Motivating my Teenager with braces
This year has been dedicated to staying on top of health maintenance. Due to covid, we were all behind on our dentist visits so I invested in a waterpik. But there is something about seeing your dentist and orthodontist. This year, Heaven received her braces. She was so excited, since her gap has been her…
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Changes and Children
I had to explain to my son that life would always be changing. Rarely will everything be constant, but change can be beneficial. My son is six, a very smart six year old, but like most children change can be difficult. Family structure, new schools, new living situations, etc are always to be expected as…
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Planning a fun and eventful 6th Birthday for my son!
I can’t believe my littlest is 6 years old and going to first grade. Time is flying. Birthdays are always celebrated at my house. The key is to keep it fun, stress-less and affordable. Of course, I always go over my intended budget, LOL. This year, I took off a week to celebrate with my…
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Hyperemesis Gravidarum
“This ain’t no regular morning sickness. I’m sick all damn day.” I said frustrated. I couldn’t get out the tub. Work started at 7:30 am and I was still in the tub at 7:10 am. I was crying because I knew I was going to have an awful day. I would be throwing up all…
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the WAHM and SAHM confusion…
Ditch the WAHM being a SAHM CONFUSION. Since March I have been working remote due to the pandemic. It has been a mix of pleasure and testing my patience. Due to personal and professional time constraints, I have learned that I can’t do it all and I’m content with that realization. While I respect and…
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Confidence is Key : Ways I Encourage & Motivate My Black Son.
In a world, where young black men are often downplayed as thugs, irresponsible baby daddies, drug dealers etc. It is important to teach our children about the images that are not often on the news. The positive images. Black people are thriving and there are many positive representations of “black boy joy” and “the black…
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Teaching awareness and ambition.
Since my kids have been home with me more due to the pandemic, I have more time to teach them the values and skills that will be useful for them to thrive in life. Not just survive but to live abundantly. My parents taught me a lot and with each generation we are supposed to…
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The Working Mom Chaos…
I recall a time I felt the entire pressure of being a working mom. I felt judged. I was already late to the parent meeting. I know they heard my heels clicking as fast as they could down the hall. I got myself together, clutched my purse and controlled my breathing. I found a seat…
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The Pandemic and Corporate America Working Parents
It was nothing new to me. Being a working mom can be rough. I’m always making adjustments. When the babysitter couldn’t make it to watch Jr, I had to adjust. When Heaven had early days out of school or snow days, major adjustments. There was usually always some weekly or monthly inconvenience for me. Now…
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Too Sexy for work. Are black women criticized more?
“Girl they told me to go home and change my shirt. And I could possibly get written up for having to leave. I don’t get it, the other girls wear shirts just like this, but nobody says anything.” I was packing my lunch and trying to get Apollo settled as I listened to my friend…
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Saving Money… DIY
I got up at 5:30 am. I took Apollo outside and then I had a craving for a frozen coffee at Dunkin. Oh, what I wouldn’t do for a frozen coffee. The memory of it made my mouth water. It soothed my tired soul and cheered me up. I felt like a prisoner to a…
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What I did when I was laid off…
If you have been following me for awhile, then you will know about my story in 2017. I got laid off in April, 2017. Yes, two kids, single and I was back hitting the ratchet streets of job search avenue. In the beginning, I felt scared. Scared to start over and start something new. Then…
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Teaching young ones to read…
Both of my parents worked at the Cleveland Public Library. That is how they met and after marriage a legend was born, (ME) LOL. My dad went on to work there and retire. So, I grew up extremely involved in the library and I grew a passion to read and write. It was also very…
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I did not stress about Thanksgiving. I will not stress about Christmas.
I refuse to stress myself, especially with all that I have been through this year. Holidays are supposed to be for enjoyment. You should not be stressed. Holidays are mainly meant for reflection, cheer, family and memories. With the pandemic taking lives, bringing changes to routine and the economy. The primary focus should be the…
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After Work… Unwind
My music selection was Toni Braxton. Matter of fact, it was her latest featuring HER called “Gotta Move On”. How befitting to how I felt. I had cut off a man who I was on the verge of being in love with last week. He was an emotional liability. To be all the way honest,…
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5 TIPS TO HELP CAREER MOMS TO SUCCEED
So, I know I joke on my social media platforms about my go to when surviving motherhood: wine. But wait, in all seriousness, there is so much more. Mom life will make you go through many trial and error lessons before you finally find a groove. Even then, situations are subject to change and then…
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Fall Family Updates
Hey Fam, It has been a minute. I can’t lie I have been so occupied. I have been working, assisting my children with virtual learning, dog training and trying to maintain some type of social life. I hope you all have been well. I wanted to take some time out today to give you some…
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10 Questions answered by the Creator!
Hey it’s Tahnee Cole. Let’s keep it fun today. I want to share answers to a few questions I have got over the years. Enjoy!! One word to describe motherhood? Courage. The last piece advice you gave a mom? Be prepared to be flexible, but stand your ground. Favorite thing to do with your kids?…
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Do you Co-Parent with a Toxic Mom or Dad?
It’s unfortunate that coparenting is not always a happy time, regardless of the effort you put in. It is also very unfortunate that the mental well-being of a child can be severely impacted when there is a parent or parents that refuses to work cooperatively because of bitterness, animosity or simply just personal issues. The…
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Virtual Learning vs Career Mom
I’m sitting in this Zoom meeting under the covers. For a minute the covers felt like an escape, as if they were sheltering me from something. I could hear my kids voices raising again and Apollo barking at the neighbors outside. I was going to yell and say for the hundredth time I was in…
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SELF CARE IS… Not Blaming Yourself For Your Child’s Growing Pains.
Parenting is hard. Not only do you experiences changes in yourself, but you also have to deal with the changes within your children. One minute they are babies hanging on you boob, the next they are preteens going through puberty, acne, and those dreaded mood swings. Self care is protecting your energy. We never think…
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Helping My Kids Cope With Changes
Some days I obsess about how I am going to work through my work at home days. But lately, I have taken a moment to think about my kids and what they are going through. It was all fun in the beginning, staying home and not going to school. Summer breaks are fun and kids…
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“Shit, we’ve been social distancing.” -Career Moms
It’s nothing new to me. I mean at one point I was getting together with one of my best college buddies for cocktails. Happy hour was the best thing to do, but that was after making arrangements for who would pick up or watch the kids, trying to sneak in quickies and getting stuck at…
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Preteen Fashion?
Yes, I am also a girl mom and honey, when I say I struggle with finding my baby girl summer clothes, that is an understatement. I usually end up buying her a bunch of summer dresses, joggers, and biker leggings to wear under long tank tops. Her style is still girly and cute, she isn’t…
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7 things I learned being a WAHM (Work At Home Mom) + Homeschooling during the Pandemic
I’m not going to lie… I have always felt that WAHM (work at home moms) and SAHM (stay at home moms), had it EASIER than moms who actually had to work outside of the home. Not easy, but EASIER. Yes, there are definitely perks to not having to commute and being with your children all…
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Stupid Sh*t People Say to Career Moms
A lot of people look at the career mom as a Super- heroine. A lot of people make me laugh with their misconceptions and small mindedness. `Many women are working outside of the home nowadays and maintaining lucrative careers. Women are breadwinners and for many that is admirable. Women of today are being praised for…
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A Preteen, A Preschooler, A Puppy & A Pandemic
“Have a kid” they said… “Get a puppy” they said… I’m joking! I love my little family, but I will say the family dynamic has changed since we added our little PUPPY Apollo to our clan. Yes, he is a great little addition. All sweet and cuddly, but he Demands ATTENTION! I forgot how much…
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PEACE, LOVE & MOTHERHOOD
As I sit here and sip my tea, I think about what so many Mommy Bloggers contribute to my life. I am so inspired by this era of women. I am so proud of especially black moms, who are branching out and sharing their unique motherhood journey. Whenever I go to THE MOM IN ME…
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The Kids Are Off For 3 Weeks…
So I know if you are a working/career mom you may be in a bit of a frenzy. It is already a lot preparing for Spring break, Summer Break and unexpected days off here and there. Yet, 3 whole weeks is a different battle! Honey, parents all over the world are like, “WHAT IN THE…
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The Bitter Baby Mama…
Remember the bitter baby mama, yeah that’s what you called her. You first saw her in the grocery store, right? She was standing there yelling at her kids, using all types of profanity. “Don’t touch a motha…” Is how she started her first sentence. Telling her three kids to keep their hands to themselves. She…
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BABY MAMA SERIES: 7 HABITS TO HEAL
Dealing with post relationship trauma is not easy. Especially, when a child or children are involved. However, you can still manage to have a productive and healthy co-parenting relationship and happy life. On a road to recovery there are things that you must do on a consistent basis to make sure that you are being…
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You’re a Bitter Baby Mama, Own it!
Her eyes were red as my Ruby Woo lipstick. She got in the car and didn’t even speak. I didn’t take it personal though. I knew why she was angry and I felt her. I kept telling her she needed a holistic detox (I will speak on that later), but she was too concerned about…
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THE “BABY MAMA” SERIES: MENTAL HEALTH
Let me tell you the double standard… I was talking to some coworkers about a story on the news. A dad was so stressed out that he came home killed his children and himself. As we discussed how sad it was a few of my co-workers started bashing the mother. What type of mom let…
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Pregnant after 30…
Lately, I have been entertaining the thought of having a final baby. Only because I have started to really consider a friendship turned into a relationship and possibly marriage is the next discussion. But, the thought of having a baby after 30 is scary to me, especially since I am 34.. How could I not…
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F*ck him, how is that for therapy? #parentingwithanincarceratedparent
Hey Mamas, I started therapy a year ago. In secret. I didn’t want my family to judge me. I didn’t grow up on therapy, I grew up on prayer. To be honest, it was surface level at first. I didn’t truly want to step out of my comfort zone because, “I’m strong”. As a matter…
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They only see you leave early… #WORKINGMOMCHALLENGES
A mom friend and I had a discussion about moms vs the workplace… We both agreed that we realized how difficult working mom life can be once our children hit school age. For many career moms, it appears to be more difficult when your child is an infant. First, there is the separation anxiety. At…
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HAPPY HOLIDAYS, HAPPY NEW YEAR AND HAPPY WINTER! (WINTER NEWSLETTER ENCLOSED)
Hello, I am committed to working on all the projects that will keep my mom tribe engaged and encouraged. Every season I will be uploading a seasonal newsletter. My last newsletter was for the Fall Season. If you enjoyed that edition, please check out my Winter edition. Download it and read it whenever you want.…
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Last Minute Gift Ideas for a Tween Like Mine…
If you are looking for last minute ideas for a tween girl like mine, here are 10 gifts she will probably love. This is not all tweens, but girls who are like my baby girl Heaven! Nails/ Nail polish- My daughter has quite a nail collection. She enjoys doing her friends nails for some pocket…
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Beating the Busy Mom Blues During the Holidays!
Tis the Season to be jolly, busy AF, overwhelmed, happy, depressed, broke, etc… Listen Mamas, life does NOT have to be the exact same, year after year. You have to find ways to make things better. Life is about learning what works and doing it. As I get older, I am learning to find ways to…
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Being the only black working mom…
Usually, I never feel out of place because I don’t compare myself to others. However, I felt really weird after having a conversation with a group of moms at our kids reading time. One mom in particular. We were all at a round table, drinking coffee and peeking in at our children to make sure…
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Teaching my son there is a Black Superman, he is.
The picture of my son in 2018 wearing his Superman costume inspired this post. He looks so strong, confident and majestic. He truly believes that he can do anything. Which is why daily, I find myself having to convince him not to jump down the flight of stairs. But, I don’t want that confidence to disappear.…
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Where Have We Been?
Happy Fall, Hey Readers. My dearest apologies for being gone so long. I missed everyone and I truly appreciate those who are still here. I also appreciate the messages asking if we are ok. Let me tell you what’s been going on… We are all doing well. The kids are growing. I’m getting younger of…
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Give Yourself Grace During The Holidays
Does it seem like everyone is in the holiday spirit except you? Christmas trees up, lights blinking and jingle bell singing. Yet, you feel like the only person in the room not feeling it. Your red and green represents the anger your feel and the green for your envy towards anyone in the holiday spirit.…
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